How to Get Banished

POSTED ON Jan 15th 2014 BY LESLIE LOFTIS UNDER Feminism, The Federalist Links, Uncategorized

Monday I came across this excellent comment at Politico. Okpulot Taha commented on an article describing Hillary Clinton’s contribution to the just released Shriver Report, A Woman’s Nation Pushing Back from the Brink. Okpulot Taha wrote:

Hillary Clinton reminds me of “WOW” – Women On the Web, a site from which I am banished for several years. This is a website operated by Candice Bergen, Whoopi Goldberg, Leslie Stahl, Lily Tomlin and a host of other Hollywood feminist elitists.

I am reading an essay over there, an author goes on and on about ambiance of a meeting to discuss this plight of women caused by masculine sexism. A group of those women meet on a lavish estate coastal San Jose. She writes of walking out to a private dock and boarding a hundred feet long sleek and sensuous yacht to prattle on about mistreatment of women by our society. She describes sipping five-hundred dollars a bottle French champagne while nibbling Russian blini lathered with exquisite caviar, “This yacht is fit to be a presidential suite at the Paris Hilton.”

She writes a dozen paragraphs about their elite and eloquent teak wood yacht surroundings replete with a towel-arm-draped butler and, so wrapped up in her high society bragging, forgets to write about mistreatment of women at large.

I suggest this braggadocian jaw flapping is intellectually insulting within a context of expressing concern for downtrodden women of America. Boy howdy, does this truth of mine make those Hollywood elitist girls wet-hen mad.

Hillary Clinton presents the same hypocritical elitist image, a pretentious cheating husband “I feel your pain” bit of snobbery.

I asked her for a link, as the forgetting to write about mistreatment of women at large is far too common, and the article sounded like a gem of an example. I wrote similar thoughts here last summer, The Central Failure of Feminism, and wrote that it is middle class, minority, and immigrant women who bear the burden of feminism’s unintended consequences in The Federalist yesterday. I haven’t been able to follow-up–either I’m having isolated technical issues or have been blocked from submitting further comments–on our common experience. She wrote that she got banned from WOW by Candace Bergen after snarkily replying to some racist remarks about her. I’ve been blocked in Jezebel and a host of small blogs for unorthodox writing on feminism. And my old blog was banned in Turkey for posting about Muslim women educated in the West who wanted to bring education opportunities back to women in their home countries. I take each of those bans as unintentional compliments. Getting banished is easy: challenge the Conventional Wisdom.

As for the Shriver report, I’m reading it this week (along with The Big Lie, a recently released book about feminism and our biological clocks). I have a theory based on the summaries and some skimming, though. The experts are pushing the same old same old: higher education, childcare, and job parity, which all sounds nice, but only re-serves the solutions that got us into this bind. More later, certainly.


  1. edge_of_the_sandbox said:

    Getting banned can be a badge of honor. Cheers and hope you had a happy new year.

  2. Okpulot Taha said:

    This always gives me wide-eyed surprise to be quoted elsewhere. Expressing common sense doesn’t seem all this exceptional. I suppose this could be common sense is a not a popular ideology during these personal agenda driven days.

    Being raised to be both a farm girl and a Choctaw, my learned and chosen purpose in life is to make babies and be a good mother; no children, no tribal future. My husband and I unknowingly turned feminism around backwards. We set a goal of becoming financially stable so I could stay home and be a traditional mother. We dedicated our lives to our daughter and to providing her with the best possible chance at living a comfortable and good life. This is simple common sense a good family future depends upon raising good children.

    Looking back, an advantage we enjoy is being born to poverty and learning humility right from the get go. We never thought of individual success rather only thought about family success, other words, teamwork. Over years we, including our little girl, worked our way out of poverty as a family team with a goal of enjoying a close loving family. We enjoy this and enjoy calluses on our hands. Along our way life taught us a lot of common sense.

    Expressing common sense within elitist and feminist web sites is what has me often banished. This seems my going on about importance of a family team sharing a common goal tends to agitate people. You are quite right, Leslie Loftis, today’s emphasis upon individual success is the bane of a family life.

    Okpulot Taha – Choctaw Nation

  3. Floyd Howard Jr said:

    I’ve been banned from Huffington Post among others!

  4. Leslie Loftis said:

    Yeah. Does it tend to happen quickly for you? Mine usually just take a comment or two. I figure they follow the link to here and see a conwom and then block. Individual bloggers aren’t so bold though. They prefer using the silent treatment. Either way, the unwillingness to engage in constructive debate–I’m not rude, just contrary–is pervasive.

    (We disagree on much, but Toni Hargis at BBC’s Mind the Gap has forever earned my respect for her willingness to engage.)

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