POSTED ON May 16th 2016 BY LESLIE LOFTIS UNDER Feminism, Motherhood
This is a post for an answer I repeatedly have to give.
Almost every time I point out weaknesses in feminist positions, someone replies with “you just don’t know what feminism means.” That is, they assume I disagree with them because they are well informed while I am ignorant.
Actually, I’ve researched historical feminism, Second Wave feminism of the 60’s, the debatable Third Wave and the growing New Wave. I’ve written on modern developments from fertility to misandry to free bleeding, which, contrary to blustering defenses, is really a thing. I have original copies of Red Stockings. The Feminine Mystique—I’ve actually read it.
I am quite familiar with the variety of definitions of feminism, how they conflict, and generally who promotes which one. Anyone who comes at me with a “just” definition of feminism, I know they are a pop feminist. And I know that by their overriding concern for the term, they intend, knowingly or not, to put discussion out of reach. Like the intersectionalists, they might cry “My feminism will be happy “just” feminism or it will be bu!!sh*t!”
Trouble is, we cannot have a productive discussion about community breakdown, family, or women’s success without addressing feminism’s negative effects over the past 50 years. I know that isn’t a pleasant thought. It isn’t affirming, and women want affirming. But it is the truth. We can avoid being rude about it, but if we continue to avoid confronting it, then young women will continue to crash.
So no, I do not fall for the “feminism is just about equality” nonsense. And I do not believe that the term will return to full favor until those who claim it expend more effort calling out the misandrists, the traitors, the pitiable, and the precious rather than insulting women like me who live out the equality that pop feminists so desire.